I’m not writing to you to pass moral judgment on our relationship-we’re at peace and very happy. But we never fell out of love with each other, so after graduation we moved in together and have been living very discreetly as a monogamous couple ever since. We attended schools far apart and limited our contact to family holidays. We knew this could ruin our lives, so we made a pact to end it. We hoped it was “just a phase” that we’d grow out of, but we wound up sleeping together until we left for college. Of course we felt guilty and ashamed, and we didn’t dare tell anyone what we were doing. After a couple of years, we realized we had fallen in love. When we were 12 we gradually started experimenting sexually with each other. We were always extremely close and shared a bedroom growing up. My fraternal twin and I (both men) are in our late 30s. Submit your questions and comments here before or during the live discussion. Got a burning question for Prudie? She’ll be online at to chat with readers each Monday at 1 p.m. Please send your questions for publication to (Questions may be edited.) Get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week click here to sign up.
